Pride Part 2-The Symptoms of Pride

Pride Part 2- Symptoms of Pride

(Now the man Moses was very humble, more than all men who were on the face of the earth.)

 Numbers 12:3 NKJV

 28 Come to Me (Jesus), all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Matthew 11:28-29 NKJV

For the law was given through Moses, but grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.

 John 1:17 NKJV

It is interesting to note that the men John associated with the development of both Old and New Covenants were also very humble. Our humility determines our usefulness to God. First we have to understand, what is humility or lowliness? Humility (which is the opposite of pride) is not being “mousy”. It is not walking around with your head hung down. Contrary to religious belief, it is not living in poverty and never having anything of value. It is not accepting defeat. Humility is acknowledging that everything you have and everything you do is by the grace of God. Humility also describes a teachable attitude. Humility also has been defined as power under control. Jesus, who never sinned had the right to condemn and judge us. Yet He chose to forgive and bless us.
For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
 John 3:17 NKJV
The same way, when God exalts and prospers us, we should never get the “big head” and think we are better than anyone else. We are not, everyone has the same potential, some have just taken further advantage of it than others. All glory goes to God, the source of our strength and blessing.

Symptoms of Pride:
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
 Philipians 2:3 NKJV
The easiest way to find out if we are prideful is to see how much we dislike it in others. Paul tells us in Romans that if we judge sinful behavior in someone else, then we are doing the same thing.
Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things. 2 But we know that the judgment of God is according to truth against those who practice such things. 3 And do you think this, O man, you who judge those practicing such things, and doing the same, that you will escape the judgment of God?
Romans 2:1-3 NKJV
Now if you feel inclined to set yourself up as a judge of those who sin, let me assure you, whoever you are, that you are in no position to do so. For at whatever point you condemn others you automatically condemn yourself, since you, the judge, commit the same sins.
 Romans 2:1-3 J.B. Phillips
But if you think that leaves you on the high ground where you can point your finger at others, think again. Every time you criticize someone, you condemn yourself. It takes one to know one. Judgmental criticism of others is a well-known way of escaping detection in your own crimes and misdemeanors. But God isn't so easily diverted. He sees right through all such smoke screens and holds you to what you've done.
Romans 2:1-3 The Message
James tells us that if judge someone for not doing something they should do, then we are also not doing it.
Do not speak evil of one another, brethren. He who speaks evil of a brother and judges his brother, speaks evil of the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.
 James 4:11 NKJV
Yet if you start to criticise the Law instead of obeying it you are setting yourself up as judge…
J.B. Phillips
If you are thinking of a list of people that should be reading this, beware of pride!

 Are you always speaking of yourself?
18 He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory; but He who seeks the glory of the One who sent Him is true, and no unrighteousness is in Him.
John 7:18 NKJV

1. Speaking from yourself as a source.

In the previous verse, "from" is the Greek word "apo" which means "out from". It is pride to claim something is Biblical or godly just because you say so. However, you can stop anyone on the street and they will have an opinion about what every Christian, minister, and everyone else should do to please God, many without any scripture to back it up. We also have to be careful as ministers that we use integrity and not try to pass off our opinions as scriptural. Our main goal should be truth as it is found in the Word of God. What if you have a best-selling cd set, with a cover painstakingly designed by a graphic designer and then you find out you said something on it that was not in line with scripture. You have a choice, you can continue to say what you did on your best-selling cd, or you can acknowledge that you have come into more light on the subject. Pride will not admit it was wrong but humility will.

2. Constantly speaking about yourself as a subject is a symptom of pride.
All workers of iniquity boast in themselves.Psalm 94:4 NKJV

It is seeking man’s glory. Never try to impress just be impressive. Let your fruit speak for you. It is never ok to try to impress. It is the pride of life.
15 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.
1 John 2:15-16 NKJV

You should ask yourself, “Why are you telling them that?”
2 Let another man praise you, and not your own mouth; A stranger, and not your own lips.

Proverbs 27:2 NKJV

27 It is not good to eat much honey; So to seek one’s own glory is not glory.

Proverbs 25:27 NKJV

18 For not he who commends himself is approved, but whom the Lord commends.
 II Corinthians 10:18 NKJV

3 For the wicked boasts of his heart’s desire;He blesses the greedy and renounces the Lord.
 4 The wicked in his proud countenance does not seek God;God is in none of his thoughts.
 Psalm 10:3-4 NKJV

The kingdom of God is not about self-commendation. I’m a “this”, respect me. Let your fruit talk for you. The louder you say it the less credible it is. Pride is a “name dropper”. “You see this, it is “so-in-so” brand”. “I got it as “such-in-such” place”. “’So-in-so’ was with me when I bought it.” It is impossible to be in faith when you are seeking your own glory.
How can you believe, who receive honor from one another, and do not seek the honor that comes from the only God?
John 5:44 NKJV

As I meditated on this further, it came to me the corporate aspect of "he that speaks out from himself". Some denominations and groups want you to believe something because "we say so" with no scriptural basis. Non-denominational folks are not immune either. We faith faith folks have developed our own sacred cows that no one had better question. The pharisees in Jesus day did the same thing. "Have any of the rulers or the Pharisees believed in Him?" John 7:48 NKJV They could not scripturally refute Jesus so they used the "majority rules" angle. Jesus said however, that wide is way to destruction and narrow the way to life (Matthew 7:13-14). We cannot make our camp an idol, and stop verifying what is said by the scripture.

Pride is not a good listener.
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.
Proverbs 18:2 NIV
Pride is an interrupter. Interrupting others is one of the most disrespectful things you can do.  When you interrupt someone you are communicating to that person that what they are saying is so insignificant you cannot wait a few seconds to hear what they have to say. You are basically communicating, “ Shut up now, and let me talk! What I have to say so superior to what you are saying that it is not worth waiting for you to finish talking.”

How you relate to people is how you deal with God.
20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? 21 And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.
1 John 4:20-21 NKJV
Some people, even if they do not interrupt, do not hear what you have to say because they are so focused on when your lips start moving so that they can put in their “two cents”.

Do you feel your view is the most important? Even if you know something can you be quiet about it. This is a test of the level of your humility.

Pride will not admit that is impressed with anything.

First, pride will not admit it did not know something. Someone bound by pride will hear something for the first time and say, "I knew that, but that is good." They would rather lie than admit that they did not know something. Humility will ask, “How did you find that out?” Pride chokes on those words. Pride refuses to ask for directions. The prideful will put themselves and their families in danger driving through dangerous neighborhoods rather than humble themselves and ask for directions.

Secondly, pride will not admit it is impressed with something someone else has. God will bless someone with a car that is all tricked out with all the amenities, and the prideful will not rejoice with them. They will say, “I don’t like those power windows anyway. They just stop working. I prefer the roll up kind.” Many times they are lying. They wanted the tricked out model but could not afford it.  What they do not know is that they are hindering their own blessing and prosperity. If you say you do not want nice things, even if it is a lie, out of your own mouth God will judge you (Luke 19:22).
A man’s pride will bring him low, But the humble in spirit will retain honor.
Proverbs 29:23 NKJV

Pride is a “one upper”. Pride is essentially competitive. Everyone knows someone like this. (If you do not it may be you). No matter what is happening or going on they have done or seen something better.

You: “I lost 20 pounds!”

One upper: “You think that is something, I lost so much weight last summer that I had to tease the hair on my legs to keep my socks up”!

You: “Man, that guy is tall!”

One upper: “You think he is tall, my uncle is so tall he has to stand on his tip toes to put his hat on!”

You: “I caught a big fish!”

One upper: “You think that fish was big, I caught one so big that it hung its tail around a bend in the river. I almost never got it reeled in!”

You: “This is good hamburger!”

One upper: “That’s nothing, you should have one at this place back home. They have to hold you down between bites!”

How is your story going to help us enjoy this situation? When someone is being blessed, this is their day don’t try to diminish it.  We even have to be careful about our praise report. A true praise report will have people impressed with God’s goodness and not try to have them impressed with our faith. If someone is believing to receive healing in a certain area, it probably will not edify them to say, “I had that same thing and prayed once and it went away.”

He who keeps his command will experience nothing harmful; And a wise man’s heart discerns both time and judgment,
Because for every matter there is a time and judgment
Ecclesiastes 8:5-6 NKJV

“The Lord GOD has given Me The tongue of the learned, That I should know how to speak A word in season to him who is weary. He awakens Me morning by morning, He awakens My ear To hear as the learned.
Isaiah 50:4 NKJV
If your true motivation is blessing someone and not soliciting Impression, you will be ask yourself, “Is this a good time to share this?”
Do you have faith? Have it to yourself before God.
Romans 14:22 NKJV
Lying is a manifestation of pride.
The proud have forged a lie against me,  But I will keep Your precepts with my whole heart. Psalm 119:69 NKJV
Lie not one to another.
Colossians 3:9
Pride tries to maintain a false image. Lying is the language of the devil. There are few things that are worse than telling a lie. Lying is traitorous. When you tell a lie, you are relying on your relationship with that person, that you have had for days months or even years, for the deception to work. You are using that person’s love for you to deceive them. When a Christian lies they are relying on the favor that God has given them to pull off their deception. We as Christians must decide that we do not lie.

Are You unhappy unless you are seen and noticed?

Hurt feelings can be a manifestation of pride. How do you handle being ignored? How much does it upset you when other people snub you, or refuse to take notice of you? Do you have to be the center of attention? (You don’t miss something you were not looking for.) Can you be demoted and keep a right heart? How do you respond when someone else takes credit for something you did? These are the things that separate the spiritual men from the boys. God will allow things to let you check up on some things. Don’t get me wrong, God never tests us with sickness, disease, poverty, or any other element of the curse, but He will allow us to be overlooked from time to time to reveal what is in our heart.
But as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, even so we speak, not as pleasing men, but God who tests our hearts.
1 Thessalonians 2:4 NKJV
Embarrassment can be a manifestation of pride.

Many Christians refuse to enter in to worship because of embarrassment. They try to justify it by saying, “That is just not part of my personality”. Since when has God’s Word been subject to your personality? If they are honest, they will have to admit that it is because of their pride. Others will not witness and share their faith with others because of embarrassment.
38 For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him the Son of Man also will be ashamed when He comes in the glory of His Father with the holy angels.”
Mark 8:38 NKJV
Sometimes our plans are pride. For example, you take someone you want to impress to a restaurant. For whatever reason, this time the service is not so hot and the food not that great, so you get embarrassed and start bawling out the waiter and acting like a heathen. Why? Pride. You wanted that person to be able to say to you, “Wow this restaurant you picked is awesome! You sure have great taste.” (This is what you imagined all the way to the restaurant). But when things don’t go as you planned and your pride is hurt, you flesh out.

That was more of a man’s scenario. Ladies, you spend the day preparing a meal for someone you want to empress (Danger Will Robinson!).  About the time the guests arrive, something burns, and the dessert flops. When they get there you are in your room swelled up with your lip out. Why? Pride. You wanted them to be able to say, “Wow, Beatrice! You sure know how to prepare a spread!” Yet when it does not go as you planned you run and pout out of embarrassment.  We should not want people to be impressed with our talent, planning, and ability. We want people to be impressed with God’s goodness and ability.

Anger and Strife are manifestations of pride.
By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom.-Proverbs 13:10 NKJVLet nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
 Philipians 2:3 NKJV
A proud and haughty man—“Scoffer” is his name; He acts with arrogant pride.
Proverbs 21:24
He who is of a proud heart stirs up strife, But he who trusts in the LORD will be prospered. Proverbs 28:25
Pride is demanding and intolerant. We have to be careful as ministers that we do not get so eager to get somewhere to minister to people that we leave a path of destruction in our wake. We are rude to the store clerk. We are mean to the waiter and waitress. Why? Because, we have to go minister to people! We sometimes get so preoccupied with ministry, that we forget that we are supposed to be salt and light to those outside the church. Many never come into the church because of the way they are treated by God’s people. We train missionaries before sending them into the mission field so not to offend the local customs of those to whom they are sent. But, here in America (our mission field) we come into a restaurant saying, “Glory to God, Hallelujah!” and don’t leave a tip at the restaurant. We have a “Honk if you love Jesus” bumper sticker and cut people off in traffic.  How we treat people is our number one priority.

We need to ask ourselves, “Why am I so angry?” If we are honest, we will have to admit that it is because of pride.  We should expect nothing and appreciate everything. If you ask for anything you are a hireling expecting payment not a giver. If you put strings on a gift, it it’s not a gift. You want the pay of acknowledgement. Some people will not help if someone does not publicly acknowledge them.  You cannot be gracious to someone who feels they deserve it. God cannot extend grace to you if you feel you deserve it.
“God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.”
James 4:6b NKJV

The prideful assume others are always interested in them.

Humility can discern when someone is no longer interested in what you are talking about. Yet the prideful are so enveloped in the cloud of their own self-importance that they believe that everyone is hanging on their every word. The truth is, however, that the other person has mentally “checked out” a long time ago. Pride assumes, humility asks.

Humility is considerate of what is going on in other’s lives. In our technological age we have more opportunities to be intrusive in the lives of others. Not only can we interrupt others while they are at home, we can also intrude on them while they are out and about via cell phone. So first of all we should be led by the Spirit when we call others. If it were not possible God would not hold you accountable to be led. There are some folks that it is painfully obvious that they are never led when they call. As soon as the first bite of food is raised to your mouth they call. Secondly, when you call, ask, “Is this a good time?” Yet, the prideful assumes that there is nothing in the universe that is more important than what they have to say right now.

Being late and making people wait is a manifestation of pride. When you make people wait by being late you are implying that your time is more important than everyone else’s. It is very disrespectful. Yet we all know someone who will make everyone wait and just stroll in free as the breeze. That is not okay!

Pride always tries to be different.
A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; He rages against all wise judgment.
 Proverbs 18:1 NKJV
1. Isolate themselves physically.
 He who willfully separates and estranges himself [from God and man] seeks his own desire and *pretext to break out against all wise and sound judgment.
 Proverbs 18:1 Amplified

*pre•text- A reason given in justification of a course of action that is not the real reason.
 He who separates himself indulges his desires and shows contempt for sound advice of any kind.
Proverbs 18:1  Complete Jewish Bible

 A loner is out to get what he wants for himself. He opposes all sound reasoning.
 Proverbs 18:1 Gods Word

 One who isolates himself pursues selfish desires;
 he rebels against all sound judgment.
 Proverbs 18:1 HCSB
The proud run from correction.

2. Isolate themselves in their mind as superior.

The proud, when they claim that they are different, really imply that they are more spiritual than everyone else. How do you know you are different, you only know a half of a percent of the people on the planet.

Pride does not want to be taught or corrected.
5 And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons:
“My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him;
6 For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives.”
7 If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?
8 But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons
Hebrews 12:5-8 NKJV
We need to understand that correction is an indicator of your son-ship not the lack of it. There are two extremes in Christianity, one who rejects correction as if they do not need it. The other, accepts the correction, yet, gets under a weight of condemnation as a result of it. Jesus said that even the tree that bears fruit gets pruned that it may bear more fruit (John 15:2). No one would be so audacious to say that they are perfect, yet, when you despise correction you are saying just that.

The prideful will acknowledge no authority higher than themselves. There are parents that will expect their kids to listen to them, yet, will not allow their teachers to correct them. There are parents that are at church functions with their kids. They will let their children defy the rules and then look at the authority as if dare them to say anything. Well, have fun later visiting that child in jail when they get older. You are training them to defy authority and you will answer to God for it.

How Do We Overcome Pride?
“Also it shall be, when he sits on the throne of his kingdom, that he shall write for himself a copy of this law in a book, from the one before the priests, the Levites. And it shall be with him, and he shall read it all the days of his life, that he may learn to fear the LORD his God and be careful to observe all the words of this law and these statutes, that his heart may not be lifted above his brethren, that he may not turn aside from the commandment to the right hand or to the left, and that he may prolong his days in his kingdom, he and his children in the midst of Israel.
Deuteronomy 17:18-20 NKJV
God commanded the kings of Israel to hand write their own copy of the law and said that it would protect them from pride. How? First of all, writing is a form of meditation. Although it may not be necessary to write your own copy of the Bible, writing out scriptures pertaining to your situation will help you get the Bible from merely in your head to in your heart. It will also give you a more portable, easier to access copy of the scriptures for what you need.

Secondly, writing out the whole law allowed the kings to see parts of the scripture that they may not fully understand or may not have working completely in their lives yet. This is a humbling thing. We as “Word people” can become “favorite Word people” if we are not careful. We only read the highlighted portions of our Bible, and deceive ourselves into thinking we understand the whole Bible, resulting in spiritual pride. So we must read the Bible devotionally as well as topically to develop humility. You will then realize that there are plenty of things in the Word that require our further study. Plus, a more devotional reading will give you better understanding and context to your highlighted “favorite passages”.  As we said in an earlier lesson, the most ignorant of the Bible are often the most prideful about it!
I humbled myself with fasting;
Psalm 35:13 NKJV
One way to overcome pride is fasting. You may not have to fast only food, but deprive your flesh of something for a period of time. Use that time that you would normally do something you like to seek God through His Word and prayer.

Another pride killer is praise and worship. Having hands uplifted in worship is one of the greatest expressions of humility. Some might say, I just don’t worship, I am just….let me finish that sentence for you, bound and prideful. If you cannot yield to God in worship, It could very well hinder you from yielding to Him when He tells you not to go to a certain place because your life could be in danger. That is one of the unfortunate side-effects of all the teaching on personality types, is that we many times have exalted our personalities over the Word of God. The purpose of understanding personalities is so that we can relate to each other, not justify our rebellion.

-- Rev. Travis Johnson was born again and Spirit filled in May of 1994. He accepted God's call to ministry in 1996. He graduated from Faith Bible Institute in 1997. He is recognized as an anointed Bible Teacher. His desire is to, along with other ministers of the Body of Christ, empower believers to interpret the Bible for themselves and make the Word of God applicable to be successful in day to day life. Travis currently lives in Arkansas with his wife and daughter.
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